Friday, May 8, 2009

Something Old...

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Sometime after the exchange of vows, the groom presents the arrhae or arras to his bride after it has been blessed by the priest.

The arras, Spanish for "earnest money", is said to come from a Roman custom of breaking gold or silver into equal halves by both parties as a pledge of marriage.

The thirteen coins, said to represent Christ and his 12 apostles, symbolize the groom's unquestionable trust and confidence. By giving arras to his bride, he places all his material wealth into her care. Acceptance by the bride means taking that trust unconditionally with total dedication.

It is also said that the custom came from Spain. The arras usually come in ornate boxes or gift trays and represents the bride's dowry as well as good wishes for prosperity. Oftentimes, these coins become part of the family heirloom.

During our wedding, instead of using a brand new arrhae (bonus: we save money in the process!), we used an arrhae that was used during the wedding of my parents-in-law. It was also used at the wedding of my oldest brother-in-law. My youngest brother-in-law will also be using it during his coming wedding.

The arrhae is made of 13 Philippine coins from the turn of the century. It is considered an heirloom piece by my husband's family. It does not only signify the trust of my husband in letting me keep and manage his material possessions, but also the trust and confidence in me by husband's family. I am honored by this ceremony. I hope to pass on this tradition to my children when they get married in the future.

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1 comment:

meeya said...

i remember, we were supposed to use my parents' arrhae pero, hard as we tried, we couldn't find it in time. in a panic, hubby found himself at robinson's galleria buying a new one a day before our wedding. sad! :P

anyway, my parents found the arrhae eventually and my brother was able to use it in his wedding. :)

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